Spring Fling

Hello Boss Ass Bitches (Babes for short)

Today’s blog is going to be a bit different than usual. Typically, I write about some experience I have had and use it to give advice to all of you lovely ladies. However, today, it is I who needs the advice. At the end of this blog, please go to my Instagram story to vote on what I should do. I need all of the help I can get here. <3 Thank you, I love you all.

I know you are all thinking, “Ashley, what do you need advice on?” A man…. What else? Ladies, it has been 5 months since the infamous Anti Prince Charming hurt me. (If you haven’t read that blog, GO READ IT.) After I wrote that blog, I took 5 months to myself to work on my own happiness. I have been excelling in my career, making new friends, getting in shape, finding new hobbies, and learning how to love myself and my life as a single woman. I am finally happy with the life that I have alone and I thought that meant I was ready to date again.

*Insert The Anomaly*

An Anomaly, by definition, is something that deviates from what is standard, normal, or expected. That is what this man is…. He is an anomaly. Men can either be the most intelligent man in the room or the most athletic however, they are never both. This man though…. He is both. This man is a handsome, chess playing, captain of the rowing team, state wrestling champ, golfing, nerdy, tall, sexy, stylish, blue-eyed, aerospace engineer. He is BOTH the most intelligent man in the room AND the most athletic. If you couldn’t already tell, I’m drooling.

This last weekend, The Anomaly and I went out on a date. He drove an hour, we sat outside at a winery drinking and chatting, he drove me home, and he kissed me goodbye. (and it was a VERY hot kiss) It was a great date. I couldn’t believe that I had somehow landed not only a date with The Anomaly, but we also discussed possibly getting together again soon at the end of the date. I want this man.. badly. I want him to be mine. (AHHHH FML)

So… here is the issue. Last night The Anomaly told me that he will be moving out of state in two months. (I am assuming to Virginia since that is where his family is, but who knows? I didn’t think to ask.) That STUNG like a mother f***er. Let’s just say my hopes and dreams were momentarily crushed when I read that text. However, we cannot dwell on things that we cannot change. So now we have a serious dilemma babes, and I am hoping you will be able to help me decide what to do.

We have two options here…..

Option 1.

Protect my damn self. I have only met this Anomaly once. If I never speak to him again, I will be 100% okay. Bummed maybe, but I will be alright. Why go down a path that I know will just hurt me? I can choose now to go ahead and make the decision that protects my heart from future hurt. This seems like the logical choice. I am typically a very logical person and this seems like the choice that I would normally make. This is the safest option…

Option 2.

*WARNING* If you go down this path, you will get hurt.

This is the dangerous option. This is the path that I know will get me hurt. This is the path where I continue to date this man and see him as much as I can over the next two months. This is the option that ignores logic and reasoning. This is the option where you tell yourself “Fuck it. I am going to live life like I will die tomorrow.” This option is the “Better to have loved and lost than not loved at all.” This is the option where you live as if you are going to die tomorrow.

Both options have their pros and cons…

Option 2 is sort of like the summer flings that you see in the movies. I picture us going to the nicest restaurant in OKC, going for a picnic, skydiving, running around downtown, and having the best two months of our lives. Living it up, but knowing that there is an expiration date… Knowing that there is a goodbye on the horizon. Option 1 is SAFE. Option 1 is SMART… Option 1 is also boring.. Option 1 would leave me thinking “What If?”

What do I do..? Play it safe and protect myself, OR do I risk it all for 2 magical months?

Babes…. Please help me decide here. I don’t know what I want, but I do know who I want it with. Right now, that is him…..

GO VOTE. Help a Babe out.

XOXO,

Ashley Rathbone